I could see why some of the boys took him for snobby. He had a quiet way about him, a walk and a talk that just wasn't normal around here. He strolled, like a man in a park without a care or a worry in the world, like he had on an invisible coat that would shield him from this place. Yeah, I think it would be fair to say... I liked Andy from the start. - Red in The Shawshank RedemptionIt is no secret that I've been struggling these last few weeks/months/years with some issues relating to my home and home life. Like many people, I work, I play, I have a family to feed, money is tight and things can become rather strained.
And when things get strained, its easy to get strained along with them and get pulled into positions, places and mental states that are uncomfortable, alien, and anxious.
Just as its nearly impossible to reason with a drunk person set on driving home after they are clearly in no shape to do so, it is similarly difficult to reason with a rager in the middle of a rage. Though that is precisely where this advice/info comes in handiest.
Anyway, nothing here is new or groundbreaking except for me. And its not even groundbreaking, its more like walking over the same ground and remembering what I'd known before.
There are no "good" days and there are no "bad" days. There are days where good things happen, there are days when bad things happen. The universe is not conspiring to ruin your life. You, me and everyone else that exists just aren't that important. The universe does not care, it cannot.
What makes a day good or bad is how you choose to interpret it. You slap your thoughts over events and create a good or bad day depending on how things occur. You can, amid a storm of crap, choose to not let it get to you. You can choose to see things differently. You can pull an Andy Dufresne and don your invisible coat to shield you from whatever barbs come your way.
Or, as Thich Nhat Hahn advises, if you don't like the world you are watching, change the channel. Willfully change how the stimulus entering your cortex is processed. That "asshole" who cut you off? He's probably late and worried about losing his job and his benefits because his wife is pregnant or sick. The bee that "assaulted" you? It probably got confused by the perfume in your shampoo.
You can warp your lens, the one that sits between your brain and the outside world. You can shape this lens in any way that you choose. When you feel stressed, you can choose to feel relief. When you feel angry, you can choose to feel happiness and gratitude. Is it easy? Nope. Not at all. It takes practice, it takes a certain kind of mental discipline. It takes wanting to break out of a deep, angry rut. It takes wanting to let go of anger and frustration and wanting to let the wonders and awesomeness of the world lift you up instead of allowing the crap to drag you down.
But it can be done. You can "talk yourself down", you can take deep breathes, you can look into your own eyes in the mirror and decide to let it go, to choose to be in a different mood and to let the anger/frustration whatever slide off you, like an invisible coat.
Welcome to a more enlightened place. Its hard to get here, its hard to stay here but man, oh man is the view worth the work.