10.16.2007

Exclusion

One of my ex-roommates got married this last weekend. I've known her and her family since I first came to Santa Cruz in 1995. Her older brother has been my longest and one of my most loyal friends.

But I haven't spent very much time with her for the last couple of years. I've got kids, she's a dancer and lives a very different life.

I did not get an invitation to the wedding and I have to say that I'm feeling disappointed and excluded. And wrongly excluded. But I understand a little bit about wedding politics and trying to contain the ever-swelling crowds that can descend on them and overtax them.

But there's a chasm between understanding and being okay with it. I feel overlooked and am pretty sad about the whole thing.

I don't know what I'll do the next time I do see her but I feel like I've lost a friend and have now strained relations with her family. I'm sure she didn't intentionally snub me, or at least I'd like to think she didn't intentionally snub me and my family. But there's really no way of telling since it is the height of poor taste to call her on it.

So I'll likely just let it go until I do see her again and then I don't know what I'll do.

But it does make me feel even more disconnected from my social circle back up in Santa Cruz. I am sooo ready to get out of Watsonville, you have absolutely no idea.

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